I am an end-user using two XMPP clients: for desktop and mobile. Since there is no XEP
standard for muting conversations, the two clients implement this in their own way, and
they are out of sync: the contacts I have muted on phone are not automatically muted on
desktop and vice-verse.
While looking to see if XMPP have such XEP, I found these extensions from Tigase that
might be helpful in writing an official XEP:
https://xeps.tigase.net/docs/push-notifications/filters