[Members] Re: Extending the XSF Community Code of Conduct (XEP-0458)

the contributor covenant that jonas' posted. sexual I would change it to: You are welcome at XSF Activities. Ensure that you are also welcoming of others. We want everyone to feel welcome no matter what the color of their skin, where they live, their socioeconomic status or where their ancestors came from. We want to welcome people from all cultures, tribes and religions, and of all sizes, shapes and ages. We want people to be welcome no matter their gender identity and expression or sexual orientation and identity. We want you to feel welcome no matter your level of experience, ability or visible and invisible disability. We want people to be welcome no matter their education, caste, citizenship or immigration status. And we want you to help us make everyone else feel welcomed, too. I would say three things: 1. as https://www.mozilla.org/en-US/about/governance/policies/participation/ and https://conduct.gnome.org/ say use inclusive language in rooms. no "guys", "he/she". you can see https://heyguys.cc/ for an example. 2.     Asking before assuming. For example what someone's preferred pronoun is, if they want to be touched, whether they know anything about a subject. If we are unsure, we ask for clarity. We also understand that not all questions are OK, or need answering. Don't assume what another person's pronouns are. 3. Require pronouns in Events/Summits/Sprints/etc. next to name tags. Ah right sorry i missed that ^^ people in the community. ignorance - for the most part, I am not marginalized. But assuming it means what I think it means, it doesn't sound respectful, friendly, or supportive, and certainly not welcoming. It basically aims to avoid situations like (substitute this as any other marginalized person, this is from my own POV): - Hey I am trans person and I have had hate crimes happen to me when I walk down the street because of my hairy legs. - "Hate crimes" don't exist or - I have friends that are trans people and I don't treat them like that. or - Maybe you misunderstood. seen as respectful or friendly or supportive. Basically what jonas said in the thread already. There are a lot of cases where a trans person goes through transition to some other sex. This happens because trans people have *a lot* of dysphoria about their birth bodies (voice, reproductive organs, hormones etc.) because they don't feel like they are that. So when transition happens they are becoming the person they *are*. This is why "dead" naming is offensive. Because its at best what i was forced to be not what I am. JoinJabber Project links to other CoCs that informed it. privileged people’s comfort, for example in situations involving: and “cisphobia” alone,” “go away,” or “I’m not discussing this with you.” oppressive behavior or assumptions in a “tone” you don’t find congenial that certain people raised in the first round of this turns into a valid one - that is, that bad behaviour can be justified if it's done "for a good reason". I agree :) Which is why in JoinJabber we added clause and would be enforced irrespective of the demographics of those involved. For example, racial discrimination will not be tolerated, irrespective of the race of those involved. Nor would unwanted sexual attention be tolerated, whatever someone's gender or sexual orientation. Members of our community have the right to expect that participants in the project will uphold these standards. which gives us also something to fall back to. https://geekfeminism.fandom.com/wiki/Community_anti-harassment/Policy all who wish to take part in our activities, fostering an environment where anyone can participate and everyone can make a difference. "inclusive language" specifically no. It could be moderated according to the line you wrote as welcoming and inclusive as possible. but I feel like a lot of people would argue it doesn't mean that. contact (eg, textual descriptions like “hug” or “backrub”) without consent or after a request to stop have seen it happen but it is one of those cases where we should trust the marginalized communities that have it there as a rule instead of our own privileged. it's worth adding something. Gnome has a nice section     Unwelcome physical contact. This includes touching a person without permission, including sensitive areas such as their hair, pregnant stomach, mobility device (wheelchair, scooter, etc) or tattoos. This also includes physically blocking or intimidating another person. Physical contact or simulated physical contact (such as emojis like “kiss”) without affirmative consent is not acceptable. This includes sharing or distribution of sexualized images or text. MSavoritias