Granted, this isn't a binary "full
security" or "no security"
difference, but a balance, but still I would put up a red flag at anyone
chosing TLS 1.2 while rejecting TLS 1.3. Some references:
https://tolumichael.com/is-tls-1-2-deprecated-key-difference-from-tls-1-3/
https://software.land/tls-1.2-vulnerability/
https://developer.mozilla.org/en-US/docs/Web/Security/Transport_Layer_Securi
ty#tls_1.3
Your references merely say that unsafe options like RSA key exchange (having
no forward secrecy) etc. have been removed from TLS 1.3. This makes it more
difficult to shoot yourself in the foot, which is good. But again, I'd argue
that most modern XMPP servers and clients (at least those implementing
XEP-0440) use TLS 1.2 with a reasonable configuration (e.g. more or less
matching that of TLS 1.3).
That said, somebody not wanting to implement TLS 1.3 but only 1.2 would indeed
be a red flag. As far as TLS is concerned, version 1.3 is definitely the only
sensible way forward.
-tmolitor